Post by Samana:
We started to talk about energy last week and how it affects us. Let’s take it a step further and relate it to our families. We have the power to create changes in our families and ourselves simply by shifting our energy. It’s not so much what life hands us that’s important as how we respond.
Remember, children are like sponges. They absorb what’s around them. They learn through example and imitate what they see. If we want them to grow into happy and peaceful people, we can focus more on how happy and peaceful we are.
This doesn’t mean we should hide our feelings around our children. The more they see us expressing ourselves honestly, the more they feel safe to have and to express their feelings.
So how can you respond to your child when they are throwing a temper tantrum in the toy store or fighting with you about leaving the play center? You can get into power struggles, or you can see how you both want to control each other and have your way. By working with your child and not against them, you empower them.
You can respect what your child wants to express. Letting them know you can save for that special toy and get it for their next birthday, or starting to forewarn them before it’s time to leave, that you will be leaving after the next round of their game empowers them. It helps them feel listened to and respected.
You can be a strong parent and still work with your child communicating what you want versus telling them what to do. We all know the best way to get someone to resist you is to tell them what to do. Why would a child be any different?
The less power struggles you have each day with your child, the better you’ll feel. You can start to build more harmony in your home.
Peace starts in the home.
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