Post by Samana:
Why is it so hard to ask for help? For me, asking for help is challenging. I often wait until I’m sick, injured or completely exhausted before asking for help. I have learned that this doesn’t work too well and wears my body down over time. I like being healthy and feeling good, so I’m changing my ways.
Because I like to feel independent and strong, believing I can do it all myself, I have failed to ask for help in the past. I would rather have less stress, feel better and enjoy my days, so I’m adopting the phrase, “ Would you please?” The trick is to just ask without having to give reasons or seem needy. Just ask it cleanly and wait for a response.
My life coach has recommended I first ask, “ Can I make a request? or “ Can I ask you something?” before asking for what I want. This assures whomever I’m asking is receptive at the time. I’m working with this with my husband right now. With my step kids, I often will go straight into the “ Would you please” as otherwise I may not get their full attention.
As a mom, you have a family to recruit help from so start making requests. When we don’t try to do it all ourselves, we have more time to take care of ourselves and enjoy doing what we want. We can be less rushed, less stressed and relax more each day.
Ask yourself if you have any trouble asking for help. If you do, acknowledge it and start slowly by making some simple requests to those you are close to, like your husband, kids or friends.
I feel my family runs better when I make clean requests and am able to simply receive with gratitude.
So here goes, “ Would you please do this today with someone in your family?” Let me know how it works for you.
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